March 4, 2025

Beyond the Cute Face: Choosing the Right Dog for You

Beyond the Cute Face: Choosing the Right Dog for You

đŸŸ Thinking about getting a dog? Hold that thought! Before you bring home a pup based on a cute face or a trending breed, let’s talk about what really matters when choosing the right dog for your life.

This week on Muddy Paws and Hairballs, I sit down with Pete Campione to expose the biggest mistakes people make when picking a dog—and how to avoid them. If you’ve ever wondered why so many dogs end up in shelters or why some adoptions fail, this episode is a must-listen.

What We Cover:

✅ The dangers of choosing a dog based on looks or a sad story đŸ¶đŸ’”
 âœ… What self-reflection has to do with responsible dog ownership
 âœ… The research you MUST do before adopting
 âœ… How to recognize key behavior signals in a dog
 âœ… Why structure and routine are non-negotiable for a successful adoption
 âœ… The first 30 days: What makes or breaks a new home

Friends, if today’s episode saves even one person from adopting or buying a dog they had no business bringing home, Pete and I have done our jobs.

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Chapters

00:02 - Choosing the Right Dog Wisely

12:31 - Finding the Right Dog Match

24:04 - Acquiring Quality Dogs

39:45 - The Power of Canine Communication

Transcript

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All right, dog lovers, listen up, because this episode might just save you from making a tremendous mistake.

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Too many people pick a dog the way they pick a new pair of shoes because it looks cute.

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Then, a few months later, they're wondering why their house is destroyed.

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Their dog is bouncing off the wall.

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Their life is a chaotic mess.

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If you don't want to have dog buyers remorse, then this episode is for you.

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Stay tuned.

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I'm Amy Castro and, as you know, I'm the host of Muddy Paws and Hairballs, and today I've got with me a guy who has seen it all in his 25 years as a trainer and behaviorist working with extreme canine behavior cases.

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He's the owner of Kindred Souls Canine Center in Howell, new Jersey, and his new book is called Canine Conversations and it's available now on Amazon in paperback and as an e-book, and his name is Pete Campione, and Pete and I are here to save you from yourself, or at least from choosing a dog that's going to turn your life upside down.

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We're going to talk about big mistakes people make, what you should actually look for when picking a pup, and why a dog is not a cute accessory it is a lifetime commitment.

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So before you bring home an adorable fluff ball.

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Let's make sure you're not about to make a disaster-level decision.

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So, pete, welcome to the show and let's save these people from themselves to the show and let's save these people from themselves.

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Hi, amy, thank you so much and it cracks me up because in your intro you said people spend more time researching a pair of shoes.

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Do you know?

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I actually got a bad review on Yelp for saying that to somebody.

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This woman came in and she had a French bulldog and she was getting pissed at it because it was being a French bulldog and my assistants kept whispering in my ear.

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They said she's being really mean to that dog, she's doing this, she doesn't like that.

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And she gave me a bad review.

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And I had actually walked up to her and I looked at her shoes and she had Hoka sneakers, which are really cool sneakers, and I said there's nothing wrong with this dog.

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I guarantee you you researched those sneakers more than you did this, because this is a perfectly normal French Bulldog and she gave me a bad review for it.

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But tough luck, there was nothing wrong with the dog.

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Yeah, I agree.

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Yeah, I'm sure she did.

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I'm sure she did, or she just got lucky because she followed the trend of other people around her, which is another way that people tend to pick their pets, which is why I think there are so many French bulldogs and doodles that are in the wrong homes and we won't even get into whether those dogs should really exist or not.

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That's a whole other show.

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Oh, please, but I do want to do that show yeah.

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So you've been working with dogs for 25 years.

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What are some of the most common mistakes people make with picking a dog, and how often do they come to you?

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And the conversation starts with but he was so cute.

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Oh please.

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I've learned in 25 years to avoid the look of horror that normally goes on my face when I hear this, and now I've learned to breathe five times before I answer, because you're dealing with close to 50% of my clientele will come in with a dog that they know nothing about, and then I hear these words which make my head explode Well, well, I didn't know, but that's why I'm here to which, of course, I always answer do you buy the car before you learn to drive or do you buy the car after you learn to drive?

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And do you buy the car because it's red or do you drive the car because it's efficient, save you know whatever?

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So that's the problem with a lot of the breeds that are popular right now, that are really iffy in most homes.

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I'm a firm believer every dog, including mixed breeds, including mixed breeds every dog is not right for every home, and that is neither good nor bad.

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It's not anybody's fault if you're not the right home for a chihuahua.

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If you've got six four-year-olds running around your house, you should not have a chihuahua or a dachshund.

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These are just common sense, and I think the most crazy making thing is people really do so much research when it comes to everything.

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Now they get their phones out and immediately Google what they want and what are the reviews on it and what are people saying.

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But again, just like you said, but he was so cute, or he picked me, I couldn't leave.

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Because he picked me, I'm like no, he didn't.

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No, he didn't, you just smelled nice.

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Come on, you smelled like that hamburger you ate five minutes ago.

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Yeah, I mean, come on, no, no, no, no, no, no.

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It's interesting you say, when you gave the example of buying a car before your license so I teach, amongst other things, that I teach to humans.

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I know you teach dogs Well, you teach humans too.

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Absolutely.

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Probably more than the dogs, but anyway.

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Absolutely.

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When it comes to productivity and how people spend their time, oftentimes people don't know how to judge what is the most important thing on their to-do list, and I'm a big believer that you should have criteria, just like you would when you were buying a car.

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So when you buy a car, you have criteria for fuel efficiency, how many passengers can hold, what is the right reliability rating.

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You know what is the price range that I can afford, etc.

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Etc.

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Etc.

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And I advocate for people to do that with their productivity.

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You know, to identify what are the things that are your goals and objectives and then use that as the criteria to filter how you spend your time.

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And I think you know, anytime we're making big decisions like having a pet, we should have a list of criteria.

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You know we should be going through some questions that say you know what's my activity level, what's my lifestyle, etc.

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What kind of thing would you say if somebody was going to create that list?

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What kind of questions or criteria do you think that they should be going through to narrow down what kind of dog they should get, where they should get it, et cetera.

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Well, first of all, you're looking at two lists.

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You're looking at your bucket list and then you have to look at the dog's bucket list.

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So you decide okay, this is who I am, this is the time I spend at work, this is the time I have free, this is the time I want to do this, this is the time I exercise.

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You look at your surroundings.

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The environment is so critical in every dog.

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That's why I mean my breeds, and they're both.

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In the room with me right now is my Australian Shepherd, which I've had Australian Shepherds for over 25 years, and Dobermans.

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These are two breeds that are not for everybody.

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They have bucket lists, so not only do they have to fit my lifestyle, I have to be able to support what they need to make them healthy and balanced.

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If you don't do both, you're on a crash course, and what happens a lot of times?

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What I see is okay, they didn't do that.

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So now the human, not the dog.

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The human has to work harder to compensate to the dog's bucket list, because the dog is now not getting what it needs, therefore redirecting it in all the wrong places.

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And then they come to you.

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I have actually heard the words.

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Can't you train this husky not to be so active, and then of course, my head explodes.

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Calm down and answer them no, I cannot change the DNA on this dog.

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This is something that is inherent in this breed.

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So you got two lists, but you've got to look at everything.

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My problem people start with their heart and then it goes to their head.

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They need to start with their head so then their heart can enjoy the situation.

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Switch it Head first, heart second.

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You're inviting something into your house.

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I would tell people, do as much research on the dog.

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But imagine you're inviting someone to rent a room in your house and think of all the research you would do on that person before you allowed them to live with you.

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Why not do the same thing?

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Because more than likely the roommate won't last more than a few months or a year or two Dog's going to be there 15 years minimum, you know, depending on the dog.

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And the research you do does start first off with yourself.

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I have three kids and I may get in trouble for this, but most good breeders and I don't know about your rescue, but most rescues in new jersey do not adopt to families with children under six.

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It is not fair to those two-year-olds and three-year-olds who do not understand the concept of this is not a toy to make them miserable following rules that they don't understand.

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So you know you have to look at everything.

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Do you have 95-year-old great-grandma living with you who has skin like cellophane, who cannot have a dog jumping on her?

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Here's my environment.

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Now, the rescues I deal with and the breeders that I deal with not only want to get these, not only rehab the dogs and profile them, but then they profile the families that are coming in and asking I mean, do you know how many people I actually know right now with Australian Shepherds who have no backyards?

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Oh my God, I mean, how do you have a herding breed with no backyard?

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So that means they either got it from someone who's a puppy mill or they got it from someone who was just trying to make a buck.

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Here's the dog.

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Give me the money Bye.

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And you know, as a legitimate rescue, how many rescues are out there right now making money and just grabbing dogs from no-kill shelters, selling them for $4.50, and you never hear from them again.

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They don't care who takes the dog.

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So research on everything.

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Research who you're buying or getting the dog from.

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Research who the dog is.

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A good rescue has a profile.

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A good rescue will ask you as many.

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I want to make the point that the research starts before you walk into that adoption event or walk into that shelter You're doing this work in advance.

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You're assessing your lifestyle, your home, the people that are living in it, and you know I would just plead to people out there is just to be honest about it.

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I mean your comment about kids under six.

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I don't care how well behaved you believe your kid is and we recently just rejected somebody.

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It was actually for a cat.

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They wanted to adopt not one, but two cats living in a very small apartment and one of the cats recently had a front leg amputated and they had children under the age of three.

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And I was like, yeah, no, that's not going to happen.

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Well, my kids are good, my kids are well behaved.

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I'm like if you're not watching them 24-7 and that cat can't get away, it's going to use the other three paws and its teeth to get away and we're not putting that animal in that situation.

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And I think activity level is another huge one.

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It's that people, whether it's a herding breed or whether it is just a working dog breed, that needs a job, if you're a couch potato, don't get a Doberman Pinscher, don't get an Australian Shepherd, because you already are not going to give that animal even just its physical needs, let alone its mental needs.

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But even that is still down to the individual dog.

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My girl, shelby here, who's three.

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My assistant has her brother night and day.

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Her brother I can't stand him.

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He sleeps until 12 o'clock.

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Shelby is whining at seven every morning.

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You will not sleep past seven, that is it, or I will scream.

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You have to base the individual, which is why when you go to a rescue, you go to a breeder, you ask a ton of questions.

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Do you know it takes me usually six months to acquire a new dog?

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Do you know it takes me usually six months to acquire a new dog?

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And if I go to rescue or to a breeder, I give them my list of what I'm looking for and I let the professional who knows the dog tell me what's right for my house.

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When I got Louie, my Doberman, I had the breeder pick.

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I said look, I run a school.

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I need a dog that's active, I need a dog that's got high drive and interested, that wants to work.

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But I need sweetness.

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And that's what I got.

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And if I were to go to a rescue, I'd say the exact same thing Give me a dog who wants to work, give me a dog who doesn't have this or has this and that's the way you do it.

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And you said something before about evaluations.

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Evaluations are cumulative.

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I have found this over time.

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I love people who charge an arm and a leg to evaluate a dog.

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I've had people come to me with dogs that have bitten numerous people, especially men, just because the dog then curls up in my lap and that has happened.

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That doesn't erase the six bites.

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So profiling and evaluation is cumulative.

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You have to put it all together.

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Same thing when you're looking at a dog to get a dog, if I'm looking at a dog, I will go and see that dog three and four times before I take it, because on one day the dog could have just eaten, been very slow and sleepy, and I'll think, oh my God, look, how laid back this dog is.

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But if I go back the next time, he hasn't eaten yet, how laid back this dog is.

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But if I go back the next time, he hasn't eaten yet, hasn't gone for a walk yet, and now he's bouncing six feet in the air.

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So you know, you have to realize that this is a living thing that is not going to be static and consistent in its behavior all the time and you have to move with that variation.

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Right, let's jump back a second because I want to make a point.

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As far as the applications, we get a lot of people that complain about our application, that it's so long, and why do you ask all these nosy questions?

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And what we're trying to do is we're trying to ask the questions that you should be asking, but we're going to ask you about you instead and then we're going to make those evaluations about.

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You know, it's not about evaluating you as a human being, about whether you're good or bad.

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It's about finding the right fit animal for your lifestyle based on what we know about the animal and we don't always know everything.

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Like you said, things change over time.

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But I think that is a good point too, is that you know you don't decide.

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Today's the day I'm going to hit all the shelters in my area and I'm coming in with something, because it does take more than one view.

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And then one other thing I want to say, about shelter dogs too, especially, is that you have to be very cautious about where are you viewing that dog, and I think shelters should do this more of assessing the person and what they're looking for before you even show them any animals.

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Right.

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Don't take them back and walk them the 40 gauntlet cages, with everybody raising hell and jumping up on the cages and barking, they're not going to get a good feel for that animal in that environment.

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No.

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Find out what that person is looking for, because you know those animals.

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Go back and select an animal and then have them meet that animal in a quieter place, versus because I've seen too many times great, perfect fit animals get overlooked because they're acting very active or they're sitting in the corner because they're overwhelmed by the chaos that's going on around them.

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And that's not really who they are.

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It's who they are at that time in that bad environment.

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Quite frankly, in shelters you're dealing with a dog that is in a semi-state of trauma.

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They've been displaced, they are packless, so they're all over the place.

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This is why adaptive process takes between 30 and 90 days.

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So the dog is in flux when they're there.

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So their responses are measured and normally on better behavior than worse behavior.

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Because they've got no rules, they've got no pack, so they tend to be looser and then when they get the dog home, the dog starts to revert to what I call inherited behavior.

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And that's where you come in and you start training and saying okay, this is where you are now and this is what we do here.

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I love I just love what you said about how long your applications are.

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If I don't, if I'm applying for something and this is what I tell people I said if they don't do a home check, if they don't give you a lot of questions, then they don't care where their dog is going.

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They just want you to take the dog.

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If they ask you a lot of questions, if they ask about your environment, they want to give you.

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Take the dog.

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If they ask you a lot of questions, if they ask about your environment, they want to give you the right dog, why would you argue?

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Why would you take the wrong dog when they're trying to give you the right one?

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But we live in a very media gratification society.

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That's the human.

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We want it now.

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Yeah, what should I be looking for?

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Like, let's say, I am going to a shelter, right, and they're doing the right thing.

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They're bringing an animal up for me to look at what would be some positive versus cautionary signs when I'm being introduced to an individual, assuming we've assessed the lifestyle thing.

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Start with engagement.

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Start with how easily does this dog engage?

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That shows you a level of learnability.

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It also shows you how much work the dog will need to get to full engagement.

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You know if a dog engages with you very, very easily, looks at you, follows you.

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Sometimes I'll just take a dog and play with it in the room and move around and see does this dog stay with me?

00:19:35.657 --> 00:19:38.974
Just to see if there's that level of engagement.

00:19:38.974 --> 00:19:43.517
If a dog runs in the corner and goes under a chair, well that tells me something else.

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I let the dog tell me who they are and simple tests of communication back and forth.

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Does the dog understand communication?

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If the dog doesn't understand communication, then that tells me this dog has spent its life in a backyard or in a cage because he doesn't understand to and fro.

00:20:06.673 --> 00:20:08.676
The environment creates the dog.

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So when you're looking at and assessing a shelter dog, that all plays into it.

00:20:14.173 --> 00:20:32.752
Because that's why it's so hard to get research and that's what drives me so crazy about methodologists is we can't get research on dogs because the minute we touch them, we infect them with us, they reflect us.

00:20:32.752 --> 00:20:34.355
So it's very hard.

00:20:34.355 --> 00:20:38.688
You know, you can study bees, you can study whales Can't study dogs.

00:20:38.688 --> 00:20:42.276
We don't infect bees, we don't affect whales.

00:20:42.276 --> 00:20:57.580
Dogs immediately start reflecting the environment and who we are and that's why individualism and that connection that you make with that dog tells you something about that dog in the moment.

00:20:58.766 --> 00:21:02.256
But going back and seeing, does the dog improve.

00:21:02.256 --> 00:21:09.419
I'm dealing with a Border Collie right now that was brought in that had growled and wouldn't let anybody but the owner near it.

00:21:09.419 --> 00:21:15.031
Took me a half an hour to get the dog sitting next to me and now I'm actually using the dog.

00:21:15.031 --> 00:21:23.335
We're on, I think, a week four of a class and the dog is actually working with me now and the dog has calmed down.

00:21:23.335 --> 00:21:28.136
But I have to let the dog tell me okay, come forward.

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Okay, no, go back.

00:21:29.353 --> 00:21:30.159
Okay, this.

00:21:30.159 --> 00:21:34.992
Okay, that you have to earn trust and then communicate this.

00:21:34.992 --> 00:21:39.321
Okay, that you have to earn trust and then communicate.

00:21:39.321 --> 00:21:45.990
And your test would be okay, how quickly did this dog learn and how much do they want to communicate?

00:21:45.990 --> 00:21:48.698
That's just giving you an idea of not whether it's a good dog or a bad dog, but who the dog is.

00:21:48.698 --> 00:21:49.902
That's all.

00:21:50.484 --> 00:21:57.855
Well, and I think it's key that you know that, and I like that you didn't label it good, bad or otherwise, because the dog is who, the dog is Right.

00:21:57.855 --> 00:22:06.039
And then you know, going into it, how much work you're going to have to do to integrate it into your life, your lifestyle, your household and all of that.

00:22:06.039 --> 00:22:07.490
And are you up for that challenge?

00:22:07.490 --> 00:22:15.893
You know some things are going to go much easier and some things are going to take a lot of time and effort, and do you have that time and are you willing to put in that effort?

00:22:15.893 --> 00:22:18.234
I think that's so important for people to ask themselves.

00:22:18.935 --> 00:22:20.317
There are generalities.

00:22:20.317 --> 00:22:24.741
If you look at a dog, you could just tell by the way the dog is moving.

00:22:24.741 --> 00:22:31.928
Okay, this dog likes to work.

00:22:31.928 --> 00:22:32.891
This dog has got a lot of energy.

00:22:32.891 --> 00:22:34.296
This dog needs a lot of stimulation.

00:22:34.296 --> 00:22:35.239
This dog is thriving on that.

00:22:35.239 --> 00:22:36.142
That tells you something, Okay.

00:22:36.142 --> 00:22:38.188
Well, do I have time to do all this?

00:22:38.188 --> 00:22:46.411
You know, if the dog just comes and curls up in your lap, well, okay, this dog may be a little more laid back.

00:22:46.411 --> 00:22:55.955
But you have to realize it's a living thing and you have to be open to the evolving nature of a dog, because no dog stays the same.

00:22:55.955 --> 00:23:06.767
So you can start with an idea, the DNA idea of a boxer versus, you know, a Shih Tzu, but then you have to go directly to individuality.

00:23:07.509 --> 00:23:22.880
So when it comes to getting a dog and I don't want to go too deep into the shelter versus rescue, versus breeder, but I kind of want to talk about how do people make good choices, let's just say in general, about sourcing a dog.

00:23:22.880 --> 00:23:24.744
You've already said a couple of things.

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You mentioned the questions on the application and how extensive the application, whether they do home visits or not, things like that or things that give you some information about that organization.

00:23:36.391 --> 00:23:47.464
But there are a lot of people who go under that guideline of I want to save a life, so I'm going to only get something from a shelter or I want to get something from a breeder, because that way I know what I'm getting.

00:23:47.464 --> 00:23:53.077
And both of those are not necessarily good criteria or the only criteria.

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What are your thoughts as far as shelter dogs versus going to a breeder and knowing who the parents are of that dog and the grandparents, et cetera, et cetera, if it's a good breeder.

00:24:04.451 --> 00:24:06.997
I don't see a difference when you're acquiring a dog.

00:24:06.997 --> 00:24:17.059
Shelter, rescue versus puppy to me are the same, because what people don't realize when they go into a shelter?

00:24:17.059 --> 00:24:19.211
Oh, this dog has already grown and knows everything.

00:24:19.211 --> 00:24:27.442
I don't have to do any work Wrong, you have to do just as much work Whether you have a puppy or an adult.

00:24:27.442 --> 00:24:31.611
You're still teaching, you're still parenting, you're still guiding.

00:24:31.611 --> 00:24:45.661
So I don't believe in a difference between it's what fits your lifestyle, but I do believe in whichever you choose, choosing quality.

00:24:45.661 --> 00:24:49.327
You don't go to Walmart for a wedding dress.

00:24:49.327 --> 00:24:55.659
So if you're going to get a dog, go to a good shelter or a good breeder.

00:24:56.946 --> 00:24:58.913
This is the age of information.

00:24:58.913 --> 00:25:11.136
There's plenty out there and for the 15 years you're saving a lot of trouble and you want to enhance your experience with the dog.

00:25:11.136 --> 00:25:14.394
You want to add to their existence.

00:25:14.394 --> 00:25:18.288
Experience with the dog, you want to add to their existence.

00:25:18.288 --> 00:25:21.433
And that's the unfortunate problem that you deal with more than breeders is I saved him?

00:25:21.433 --> 00:25:23.939
Well, no, you didn't.

00:25:23.939 --> 00:25:27.772
If you took him home, you just took him from one box to another.

00:25:27.772 --> 00:25:31.126
If he's in the wrong home, he's not thriving.

00:25:31.126 --> 00:25:35.154
He has a right to be the best version of himself.

00:25:35.516 --> 00:25:45.888
So are there red flags in any facility or organization that I should basically go screaming into the hills if I see that or if I experience that?

00:25:46.068 --> 00:25:53.612
The red flags would be shelters that are adopting in malls people who are not doing background checks.

00:25:53.612 --> 00:25:59.589
Red flags are that they're not asking a lot of questions of you.

00:25:59.750 --> 00:26:09.148
Now we do adoption events out in the community, but we don't let you take anything home from the homeless, just using that as a pickup point because we've already arranged and we do mostly cats.

00:26:09.148 --> 00:26:16.253
We don't do a ton of dogs, but it would be the last step of handing over the dog in the adoption process.

00:26:16.253 --> 00:26:20.856
But we don't just let you fill out an application on site and then just let you go home with a pet.

00:26:22.326 --> 00:26:23.147
With rescues.

00:26:23.147 --> 00:26:29.326
You want a rescue that's as interested in you as you are in the dog With a breeder.

00:26:29.326 --> 00:26:34.059
If you can't meet the parents of your new puppy, you don't get that puppy.

00:26:34.059 --> 00:26:35.182
That's standard.

00:26:35.182 --> 00:26:39.073
You have to go back, especially if you're buying a purebred from a breeder.

00:26:39.073 --> 00:26:41.577
You go back, you do your homework.

00:26:41.577 --> 00:26:47.221
I go back in history, I go back and I look at parents, I look at guarantees.

00:26:47.221 --> 00:26:51.891
I look at standard market price from a breeder for a dog.

00:26:51.891 --> 00:26:54.195
If you've got a dog, that normally.

00:26:54.195 --> 00:26:59.704
Now we go back to French Bulldogs because they are now the number one dog in America.

00:26:59.704 --> 00:27:08.684
They are averaging between $8,000 and $10,000 for a dog that five years ago cost $3,000.

00:27:08.684 --> 00:27:11.273
So you look at standard prices from breeders.

00:27:12.605 --> 00:27:18.406
If somebody is giving you an outrageously low deal, red flag, there's something wrong.

00:27:18.406 --> 00:27:24.237
My dogs have hips checked, shoulders, eyes, all certified.

00:27:24.237 --> 00:27:26.207
What is the guarantee?

00:27:26.207 --> 00:27:29.333
That is coming from either the breeder or the shelter.

00:27:29.333 --> 00:27:34.628
Every good shelter I deal with stands behind their dogs.

00:27:34.628 --> 00:27:43.464
If that dog does not work out, you sign a contract that says that rescue is going to take that dog back or that cat back.

00:27:43.464 --> 00:27:46.634
They stand behind it and so does a good breeder.

00:27:46.634 --> 00:27:48.351
You sign the contract.

00:27:48.351 --> 00:27:51.050
God forbid I ever had to give up one of my dogs.

00:27:51.050 --> 00:27:52.936
The breeder has to know about it.

00:27:52.936 --> 00:28:06.618
This shows you that the rescue or the shelter is proud of their placement of their dog with you and they want it to work.

00:28:06.618 --> 00:28:09.848
That's a red flag if you don't get that.

00:28:09.989 --> 00:28:10.210
Right.

00:28:10.830 --> 00:28:12.554
If it's too good to be true.

00:28:12.574 --> 00:28:14.959
Well, it shows a commitment to the animal and its future too.

00:28:16.046 --> 00:28:30.859
If it's too good to be true it's not true, you know then there's something going on and right now puppy mills have gotten very smart about using fake homes.

00:28:30.859 --> 00:28:36.424
They'll put the puppies in a pen with fake parents and people don't know, and then they go.

00:28:36.424 --> 00:28:38.088
Oh no, it was a real breeder.

00:28:38.088 --> 00:28:44.407
I went to a house and I saw the parents and I said and you got your German Shepherd from them?

00:28:44.407 --> 00:28:46.151
I said and how much was the dog?

00:28:46.151 --> 00:28:47.614
$800.

00:28:47.614 --> 00:28:53.230
No, you don't get a German Shepherd for $800.

00:28:53.230 --> 00:28:55.414
That was not real.

00:28:55.414 --> 00:28:57.839
I said where's your contract?

00:28:57.839 --> 00:29:02.692
Oh, there was no contract, there was just a bill of sale.

00:29:03.733 --> 00:29:08.008
No, no, people who are proud of what they do follow through.

00:29:08.008 --> 00:29:09.551
I guarantee my work.

00:29:09.551 --> 00:29:13.667
If somebody goes through my class and they don't get it, they take it again for free.

00:29:13.667 --> 00:29:14.852
Oh, no, no, no, no.

00:29:14.852 --> 00:29:19.192
You're not leaving until that dog is worth it and that dog has gotten what it needs.

00:29:19.192 --> 00:29:38.128
You know, your red flags are no different than with anything else If somebody's selling you a Rolex for 25 bucks no For the fees, though I want to just say that you know, in rescues we keep our fees based on.

00:29:38.328 --> 00:29:42.926
You know we don't raise it because it's because we happen to take in a purebred this or that.

00:29:42.926 --> 00:29:52.911
Our fees are based on the kind of average expense of what it costs us to care for the animal while it's in our care and we kind of take a loss on most of our animals.

00:29:53.310 --> 00:29:54.373
But that's a good rescue.

00:29:54.373 --> 00:30:00.520
Unfortunately, yeah, what people think is this is the thing about rescues.

00:30:00.520 --> 00:30:28.788
There are rescues making a ton of money because down south there are so many shelters and so many displaced dogs that are on death row and any rescue can walk into these shelters and say, well, I'll take all those dogs off of death row and they may pay 10 bucks a dog and then they just drive them up in a van, right, and then they drive them up in a van and they just hand them off to the first person with $400.

00:30:28.788 --> 00:30:38.888
And I also get people who are like, well, I looked everywhere and this was the only person I could get the dog from now.

00:30:38.888 --> 00:30:41.653
Well, no, not now.

00:30:41.653 --> 00:30:43.957
I've waited half a year for a dog.

00:30:43.957 --> 00:30:46.306
I've waited for litters.

00:30:46.306 --> 00:30:50.113
I've waited for the right dog to come in to rescue.

00:30:50.113 --> 00:30:57.904
I've done both, and that again rescue.

00:30:57.904 --> 00:30:58.425
I've done both.

00:30:58.425 --> 00:30:59.890
And that again speaks to my needs as a trainer.

00:30:59.890 --> 00:31:05.207
My dogs accompany me and work with me, so sometimes I need a puppy to be brought up in that environment so that they're kind of bulletproof.

00:31:05.207 --> 00:31:10.338
And taking in a rescue dog with unknowns could be a problem.

00:31:10.338 --> 00:31:11.948
But I've lucked out.

00:31:12.188 --> 00:31:16.837
I had a border collie, toby, that actually I rescued him.

00:31:16.837 --> 00:31:34.691
He was found on the street of New Hampshire at two years old, covered in ticks and fleas, and Toby ended up winning an award from New Jersey governor for his work with deaf children, which was an amazing rebound and success story.

00:31:34.691 --> 00:31:37.194
In fact, I wrote about him in the book.

00:31:37.194 --> 00:31:39.838
But I know what I'm.

00:31:39.838 --> 00:31:45.228
You know when you take a dog in, there's a certain amount of rehab.

00:31:45.228 --> 00:31:47.311
You're introducing yourself to the dog.

00:31:47.311 --> 00:31:59.167
You have to be ready to teach, you have to be ready to parent, and I use that analogy a lot with people.

00:31:59.167 --> 00:31:59.509
You're parenting.

00:31:59.509 --> 00:32:01.656
When somebody tells me what they did with the dog, I say would you do that with your kid?

00:32:01.656 --> 00:32:08.102
If somebody said this could possibly hurt your child, would you take a chance?

00:32:08.102 --> 00:32:12.955
Well, no, yeah, but you know how many people take chances with dogs.

00:32:12.955 --> 00:32:24.218
That's why good breeders and rescues need to ask a lot of questions to find out who is this that's asking me for my dog?

00:32:24.317 --> 00:32:24.960
yeah, yeah.

00:32:24.960 --> 00:32:27.426
Then sometimes you end up sitting on animal.

00:32:27.426 --> 00:32:32.527
I mean I've had people get pissed off and I guess you just don't want this animal to find a home.

00:32:32.527 --> 00:32:34.554
It's like, no, I just don't want it to go home with you.

00:32:35.246 --> 00:32:54.019
It's like I hate to be an ass, but you're not the right fit and I would rather I'm taking a blind pit bull with me when I move, because she's not my dog but we have not found the right adopter for her and I'm not just going to give her to anybody just because I don't feel like taking seven animals with me back to the East Coast.

00:32:54.019 --> 00:33:00.878
They're all coming with Once somebody feels like they've got the right dog and they bring it home.

00:33:00.878 --> 00:33:12.068
You know we give a lot of instruction on what to do when you bring the dog a dog or a cat home and what kind of environment they need, and we obviously talk about equipment and things like that in advance.

00:33:12.068 --> 00:33:16.240
But what are the success factors, let's say in the first 30 days?

00:33:16.240 --> 00:33:19.171
Let's say things that people should be doing when they bring a new dog home.

00:33:20.125 --> 00:33:26.419
Whenever you bring a new dog home, whether it's an adult dog or a puppy, there's a period of an adjustment.

00:33:26.419 --> 00:33:30.395
If it's a puppy, it's a little bit easier because they're smaller, they're babies.

00:33:30.395 --> 00:33:36.361
But either way, adult or puppy, it's like a baby.

00:33:36.361 --> 00:33:41.652
You're bringing something into your house that knows nothing.

00:33:41.652 --> 00:33:46.460
Dogs seek three things who is the leader?

00:33:46.460 --> 00:33:47.726
What are the rules?

00:33:47.726 --> 00:33:49.148
How do I survive?

00:33:49.148 --> 00:33:52.173
And they survive by knowing the rules and the leader.

00:33:52.173 --> 00:33:58.449
Now, knowing the rules are not about anything more than safety.

00:33:58.449 --> 00:34:09.431
So you have to think between the first 30 and 90 days, how can I make sure this dog is safe and how can I make sure this dog is learning?

00:34:09.431 --> 00:34:21.670
That means, as far as I'm concerned, that no dog, no puppy is out of sight if you can't be monitoring that dog or that puppy.

00:34:21.670 --> 00:34:24.615
That's what your crate is for.

00:34:24.615 --> 00:34:28.690
Your crate is your babysitter, your safety seat.

00:34:28.690 --> 00:34:32.197
You would never turn your back on an infant crawling on the floor.

00:34:32.197 --> 00:34:35.003
You would never turn your back on an infant crawling on the floor.

00:34:35.003 --> 00:34:40.103
There would be no such thing as where's the baby?

00:34:40.103 --> 00:34:42.427
No, and there should not be anything like that with the dog.

00:34:42.427 --> 00:34:46.818
It takes two seconds for any dog to pick something up off the floor and choke on it.

00:34:46.818 --> 00:35:03.579
So your rule of thumb in the beginning to provide stability, success and a good bond is the dog is out, he has my attention, I'm focused, that's it.

00:35:03.579 --> 00:35:05.023
Give yourself a break.

00:35:05.023 --> 00:35:09.911
If you've got something to do, put the dog in a safe area a pen or a crate.

00:35:09.911 --> 00:35:15.778
That way you know this dog is not learning bad behaviors.

00:35:15.778 --> 00:35:21.797
Because the beauty of bringing a new dog home is they're ready for you to take charge.

00:35:21.797 --> 00:35:28.871
Tell them how their life is going to be happy, and you got to do that.

00:35:29.432 --> 00:35:33.119
I often tell people, especially with adult dogs and puppies.

00:35:33.119 --> 00:35:38.842
I often tell people, especially with adult dogs and puppies, to let them drag a short two to three foot chain leash around the house.

00:35:38.842 --> 00:35:39.324
Why a chain?

00:35:39.324 --> 00:35:42.393
So they don't chew and choke on it.

00:35:42.393 --> 00:35:50.840
But that leash gives you the ability to correct and to instruct.

00:35:50.840 --> 00:35:58.349
If you say, doggy come, and the dog doesn't understand that, then you pick up the leash, bring the dog to you.

00:35:58.349 --> 00:36:01.434
And now the dog is like, oh, that's what it means.

00:36:01.434 --> 00:36:05.552
Oh, and you loved when I did that, so I'll do that again.

00:36:05.552 --> 00:36:15.869
Or if you see a puppy starting to poop on your floor because he's not housebroken yet, you pick up the leash, you say no, no and get the dog outside.

00:36:16.329 --> 00:36:18.293
I don't want people grabbing the dog.

00:36:18.293 --> 00:36:19.315
That's intrusive.

00:36:19.315 --> 00:36:26.519
Picking up a leash is instructive but I have to emphasize it must be chained.

00:36:26.519 --> 00:36:35.898
I don't want dogs choking because they're bored and chewing on their leash, but that whole thing teaches dogs not to jump.

00:36:35.898 --> 00:36:39.313
What's acceptable, what's not acceptable?

00:36:39.313 --> 00:36:41.132
It's an instruction tool.

00:36:41.132 --> 00:36:50.385
The first 90 days of puppy and rescue of an adult is learning and absorbing.

00:36:50.385 --> 00:36:55.697
If you put the work in in the beginning, you can enjoy them later.

00:36:55.697 --> 00:37:00.775
You don't put the work in the beginning, then it's tedious the entire time.

00:37:02.277 --> 00:37:05.505
Yeah, and I think you need to engage everybody in that process.

00:37:05.505 --> 00:37:14.076
Like one of the things that I know we have had issues with you got a guest or people coming over at some point and they don't want to follow the rules.

00:37:14.076 --> 00:37:16.550
Like people will say things like oh, that's okay.

00:37:16.550 --> 00:37:18.936
When they jump up, it's like no, it's not okay.

00:37:18.936 --> 00:37:25.588
No, it's not Just because you accept, it doesn't mean that I want them jumping on my grandma or knocking down a two-year-old.

00:37:25.688 --> 00:37:26.713
So no, thank you.

00:37:27.125 --> 00:37:28.907
We have to follow these rules, yeah.

00:37:29.086 --> 00:37:29.708
Thank you.

00:37:29.708 --> 00:37:32.670
I honestly use the exact same thing.

00:37:32.670 --> 00:37:35.673
You have to remember it's again parenting.

00:37:35.673 --> 00:37:42.201
You don't let your guests come in and give your kids chocolate five minutes before you eat.

00:37:42.201 --> 00:37:51.210
When your guests come in, they follow the rules for the safety and the development of the child.

00:37:51.210 --> 00:37:51.751
This is the same thing.

00:37:51.751 --> 00:37:56.338
And again, if the dog is dragging a leash and someone comes in now you can teach the dog.

00:37:56.338 --> 00:38:02.971
If you want to engage with that person, say please, please is sit, so the dog sits.

00:38:02.971 --> 00:38:05.934
Then that becomes the go-to behavior.

00:38:05.934 --> 00:38:12.739
But you can't let anybody undermine your teaching of your child.

00:38:12.739 --> 00:38:15.818
And it's the same thing with a new dog.

00:38:16.219 --> 00:38:29.311
You know, when I get a dog that is constantly jumping, I mean one of the first rules I lay a foundation down for all my students and the first thing is your dog.

00:38:29.311 --> 00:38:30.954
You teach your children to say please.

00:38:30.954 --> 00:38:31.936
You teach your children to say please.

00:38:31.936 --> 00:38:35.626
You teach your dog to say please, your dog sits for everything.

00:38:35.626 --> 00:38:39.376
That's teaching the dog politeness, manners.

00:38:39.376 --> 00:38:54.438
Secondly, you follow through on everything you say so the dog learns clarity and language and I can tell if people are not doing those things, Because if they come back four weeks later and say, well, my dog is still jumping.

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My first question is are you letting the dog drag a leash and who's letting the dog jump on them?

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It's not the dog's fault.

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Dogs follow.

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They don't lead, they don't want to be in charge, they want a parent.

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It provides dogs with confidence and security.

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You get a much more balanced dog when the dog knows the answers and the dog knows clearly what you want.

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And you achieve that by instruction, consistency, repetition, those things equal behavior.

00:39:27.827 --> 00:39:28.469
Such a good point.

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So to kind of wrap things up, number one I want you to tell us about your book, because I mentioned it in the beginning and you've mentioned it a couple of times.

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But tell us a little bit more about what we've defined when we buy the book.

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Well, oddly, it came about because I keep reading scientific studies that say no, dogs are not empathetic, dogs do not do anything, they're not going to get something from.

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My firm belief is dogs are proactively communicating with us now on a level that does not involve what can they get out of the situation, and I've had a lot of experiences with that and I have found communication with dogs is the key to.

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I don't like the word training, I like forming behavior.

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You know you don't say I'm training my child, but you're teaching your child, and teaching is effective communication and I feel like the book teaches people to listen and respond.

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In my area I get a lot of dogs who are not accepted other places I get dogs with severe PTSD who've been abused, bait dogs, hoarding dogs.

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There's a story on my website about a dog named Fiona.

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She's also a book.

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She was a husky who was found in a box of dead puppies in a hoarding situation.

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And Fiona it took her about a year to finally learn how to play.

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I look at these broken and you know, coming from my childhood, I just sort of, like you know, project onto them like, wow, if only somebody had done this for me.

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So I take a lot of cases that nobody else will Deaf dogs, blind dogs, ptsd, severe anxiety, behavioral issues.

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That keeps these dogs from being resilient, because, unfortunately, when people get these dogs again, they're thinking with their heart first why are you adopting a blind dog when you have no experience with that?

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You can't rehabilitate what you don't know, and my job then is okay, you've already got the dog, here's what you need to do.

00:42:00.878 --> 00:42:04.608
So the book is about creating communication First.

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I am over looking at endless verbal vomit from training videos where everybody just walks in a room and starts yanking on the dog.

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Nobody communicates to the dog first to say hey, we got a back and forth going here.

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I'm talking to you, you're talking to me, introduce yourself Before.

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A lot of these trainers just walk in okay, do this, do this, do that.

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No, you can't Introduce.

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Have a connection first, and that way the dog wants to learn.

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If a dog wants to learn, it lasts.

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Otherwise with methodologists, it only lasts as long as you're making them do something.

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I want to convince them to do something because it's the right choice and the book shows this, because these are extreme cases.

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These are cases where there was no hope and we found it, and it came full circle.

00:43:08.528 --> 00:43:15.822
The real catalyst for the book was a German shepherd that I dealt with that was bought by a millionaire.

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He bought three puppies and left them in a kennel for two years and abandoned them.

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One of the dogs was adopted by this lovely couple and his name was Martin, and I'll never forget him and I'm not going to cry when I talk about this.

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But one night he broke free.

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I had taken a lot of time with Martin.

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Martin had black eyes, he was dead inside.

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He would do whatever you said, but there was no joy, there was nothing.

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After he started to come around, after he started to wag his tail, after he actually started to look and the light was back in his eyes, he was going through a second class with me and in the middle of the class he broke free from his owner and did something he had never done with anybody before and his owner started crying.

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And then I was bawling like a baby.

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She was putting her coat on and the leash dropped and he ran across the room, jumped in my lap.

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I've got 90 pounds of German Shepherd licking me, knocking my hat off.

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I'm bawling like a baby.

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But all I heard was thank you, thank you, thank you, and I still.

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It still affects me because that was proactive communication that was proactive.

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He got nothing out of that.

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He wanted to tell me something and that's why it's so important to fine-tune your communication with this dog.

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It increases the bond, it increases the safety factor and they're a social being.

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So make them a social being, talk to them, listen to them, and that's what I hope the book does, by seeing how it can work If it can work with these extreme cases imagine on a well-balanced dog.

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But it's a heart book.

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It's a very personal book about special dogs that have taken me through a journey and I in turn, have taken them through the journey, and I hope people enjoy it.

00:45:27.376 --> 00:45:29.367
I've gotten a lot of good feedback so far.

00:45:29.367 --> 00:45:33.856
Last chapter's a bitch, though, because it's your final conversation.

00:45:34.719 --> 00:45:34.958
Uh-oh.

00:45:35.784 --> 00:45:38.007
Yeah, I'm a firm believer.

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I have put on Academy Award winning performances with that last conversation with some very special dogs, but you owe it to them to send them off in peace.

00:45:51.112 --> 00:46:05.110
So that last chapter chapter is probably my most important chapter but the hardest one for me to read or edit or talk about, because it's so personal and we all go through it.

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All of us in the animal world have signed on for children that will die before us and we go through that always.

00:46:15.552 --> 00:46:21.168
But it's something that we signed on for, so we owe it to them.

00:46:25.239 --> 00:46:25.440
Yeah.

00:46:25.440 --> 00:46:33.552
So, definitely encourage people to, and we'll put links in the show notes so that people can check out the book on on.

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Amazon.

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You can listen to it you can read it if you want the paperback version, and we'll put those links out there.

00:46:39.420 --> 00:46:46.768
But, Pete, thank you so much for being here today and sharing your experience and your wisdom.

00:46:46.768 --> 00:46:50.525
I really appreciate it and I hope people take to heart all the advice that you provided throughout this episode.

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Well, amy, thank you and God bless you for the work you do, because good rescue people are true givers, because you are not in this to get rich.

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You know when you get involved with animals.

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I haven't made a dime.

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All I do is waste money.

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I mean, you know, I knew I was not going to get rich doing this.

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If I did get rich, I knew I was not going to get rich doing this.

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If I did get rich, I would be compromising my integrity.

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So you don't.

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It's love.

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So that's why you guys are out in the trenches and I offer my school will give free training to any rescue.

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If I've got room in a class and you guys have got dogs that have problems, you come to me and that dog has a place, because if you can give, I certainly can.

00:47:40.237 --> 00:47:44.295
So you know you should you get a gold star for your life.

00:47:45.965 --> 00:47:46.487
Well, thank you.

00:47:46.487 --> 00:47:47.509
I appreciate that.

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All right, folks, if today's episode has saved even one person from adopting or buying a dog, they had no business bringing home than.

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Pete and I have done our jobs.

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If you're about to bring home a new pup, please think before you leap.

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Don't just fall for that cute face or that sad story on the internet.

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Do your homework and set your dog and yourself up for success because, trust me, nobody wants to be the person crying on the phone to a trainer or to a rescue saying I don't know what went wrong.

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A huge thanks again to Pete Campione for sharing his wisdom, and if you want to learn more, go grab his book.

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We put links in the show notes.

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